The Spotlight Syndrome: Why Entrepreneurs Hesitate To Shine OnlineOct 19, 2023
Everyone has a story, but not all are told.
Picture this: In the vast digital universe, you have a unique, untold tale. But, imagine if this story remains unshared, like a manuscript hidden away.
Ever felt the hesitation to share? Well behind the hesitancy, lurking beneath the reluctance, is the Spotlight Syndrome - the invisible force preventing entrepreneurs from showing up online.
The Allure and Anxiety of Online Visibility
Having an online presence is non-negotiable in today's digital age.
But we know it can be a double-edged sword.
Visibility, while a powerful tool for connection and credibility, also opens us up to the sometimes harsh glow of scrutiny. It’s a balance, almost a dance, between reward and risk.
Common Fears Entrepreneurs Face Online
Fear of criticism and public scrutiny.
Ah the echo of unsolicited opinions and comments. Firstly, when this happens to you - congrats you’ve made it online!! It’s a milestone all success entrepreneurs reach.
And although it can just seem like someone spreading hate for no reason, it’s important to recognise if this is an experts opinion that you can create a conversation around, or someone just commenting out of fear and misery because of where they are in their life.
Either way, can you remember a time you faced criticism? Now notice how it made you grow. Online comments are just another form of feedback - although often it can be disguised as just negativity at first, when you look deeper it’s often someone else’s fear coming out.
Tip: I try and come at it from a place love for the person commenting. Love trumps hate.
The impostor syndrome: Am I good enough?
This is probably something you’ve experienced many times. The illusion that others, in the same arena, are somehow more deserving, more legitimate (even though on some level we know what we see online isn’t always true).
Tip: Can you focus on transforming that doubt into a quest for growth and self-discovery next time it comes up.
Overthinking personal branding: Does authenticity mean full disclosure?
In a world clamoring for authenticity, the line blurs. How much is too much? Is vulnerability the ticket to genuine branding, or does it invite unwanted trespassers?
Imagine being truly you, consistently. How liberating would that feel?
Debunking Myths About Being Visible Online
I’m going to go through some common myths people have about being visible online, and then I’m going to use a few techniques to help you reframe them - so pay attention! Ready?
Myth 1: Everyone will judge me negatively.
Negative judgment, while a true fear, is often an overamplified whisper in an entrepreneur’s brain.
When these feelings come up say to yourself…. “What if they admired my courage.” OR “What if me showing up truly helps people”.
Myth 2: Only big names deserve the spotlight.
Size or stature doesn’t dictate worth.
Think of someone you admire. Weren’t they once unknown too?
Myth 3: If I make a mistake, it’s game over.
Mistakes, missteps, and mishaps do not equal a digital death. They’re just stepping stones on your path to mastery.
Harnessing the Power of Vulnerability
Hiding in the shadows doesn’t pay off. And the cost of playing safe is the opportunities lost.
The opportunity for personal and business growth, the opportunity to reach your perfect people, the opportunity to change lives!
The magic happens outside the comfort zone.
It's at the place of discomfort that transformation really happens.
You get to use your Uniqueness and Authenticity as a magnet - drawing your tribe (your people, your audience) to you.
And in the din of digital pretense, authenticity rings clear, resonating with those who seek the genuine, the real.
If you’ve been gulping throughout reading this at the thought of being more visible here’s something to consider.
Feel your heartbeat? That's not just fear; it's the thrill of potential! It’s the care you have for what you do an helping people.
It’s your time to shine.
In a digital space full of mimics, your uniqueness is needed. It’s not going to be for everyone - AND THAT’S OK!
And it’s ok to start now and share your journey, not just your success of ‘when you’ve made it’.
Your challenge today is:
- Reflect on Your Fears: Write down the top three fears holding you back from being visible online.
- Reframe The Narrative: Using the tips and myth debunking strategies from the blog, challenge each fear by writing down a positive or empowering statement to counter it. For example, if your fear is 'everyone will judge me negatively', reframe it to 'What if they admired my courage?'
- Commit to One Authentic Act: Whether it's sharing a personal story, a behind-the-scenes look at your day, or your genuine thoughts on a recent trend in your industry – put something authentic out there. Remember, vulnerability and authenticity can act as a magnet.
- Engage with Feedback: Next time you receive any online comment, practice coming from a place of love. Respond genuinely or reflect on it, determining if it's valuable feedback or just someone's fear projecting.
- Celebrate Small Wins: After sharing, take a moment to celebrate the act of putting yourself out there. Every little step counts.
Remember, it's not about being perfect or pleasing everyone. It's about sharing your unique journey and resonating with those who genuinely connect with your authenticity. Embrace the discomfort; that's where growth happens.